Love and Ego
One could think that we by this time would know what Love is, but do we really?
It's about Acceptance. And accepting yourself, just as you are, physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. And I will tell you, is not that easy! On your way to total Acceptance of yourself you fall into pits that your Ego has carefully been digging, for a long time. And as if that were not enough, you seem to constantly get into situations with people you think just makes things worse! And worst of all, one might think, is that you somewhere out there in the Universe sat down in meetings and staged every little thing you might run into down here! And at the meetings were the Higher Selves of all those people yo would meet in your entire life!
Ok, then at least we know that we're not alone in not having control down here, haha.
So everything we've gone through in our lives were in all probability, arranged, planned in minute detail. Why? Because we, before we came down here, thought we had some things which we were not finished with. We wanted to experience ourselves as we are right now, down here on Earth. We have been here before, there were probably lives we lived that didn't really give us what we had hoped for and so we wanted to return here. And from all the lives we lived before, we carry traces , these traces lies in our cellular memories. So our body is carrying around traces of all sorts of experiences, both traumatic and joyful.
And the icing on the cake will be that which we've experienced in this life ... Whew!
What can you say about what you so far experienced in this life, then? All situations which have arisen in our lives, got there for a reason. And there is always a sense that we should look at the situation to see where it originates. It's all about Cause and Effect. Take a simple thing like the fear of doing wrong, why does it exist? Hmm ... that immediately raises another question; how is your relationship with your father? Here, the relationship with the father is the Cause and the "fear of doing wrong" is the Effect.
We must then look at each situation and what that experience just then gives us.
Now it's time for us to go into the emotion, howt does the experience make you feel? Is it sadness, anger, fear? Ok, you've identified the feeling, where does it come from? Can you remember a time long ago when you had the same feeling? Or can you remember a person who behaved the same as this one just did? An experience that recurs is one that we're not finished processing. It will reappear over and over again in different formats and with different leading characters.
But, how do you process an experience, then?
To come to grips with an experience that starts in eg childhood, we need to have an understanding that there always is a Cause. In this case, the father, in turn, had nearly the same experiences in his own childhood, it was wrong to express anger or sadness and one could otherwise get a taste of the belt. He knew nothing else, so how could he do differently? We are all acting from our own frame of reference, large or small.
And if we can see the Cause for what it is, then we can better understand the Effects that come from it.
Now that you have taken a closer look at your experience and the original Cause for it, the feeling you got out of today's experience has slightly begun to release. And you don't judge the person in question so hard anymore. If you can forgive your father for his actions that time in your childhood, now that you know that he actually could not have done differently, then you have come a long way. It is now you must look at yourself. You also have a frame of reference, how do you act? You find the same pattern?
Oops, you do, indeed... interesting!
And then comes the question: how is the relationship with yourself? Not so brilliant? No, you are acting exactly the same way. And to break this pattern, you need to go back to the origin, every time. Then, when you come so far that you no longer judge anyone or anything on the outside, that's when you stop judging yourself. And because of this you begin to Accept yourself with all that comes with being the person you are, on Earth today.
And to Accept is to Love Unconditionally.
When we Accept ourselves completely those patterns falls away, those behavior patterns that actually made us sick. All diseases, ailments and other things that are happening to us is an Effect of a Cause and therefore always comes from a behavior pattern. And it is only when we Accept and Love ourselves Unconditionally that we can Accept and Love another person Unconditionally.
To Love Unconditionally is to not set any conditions whatsoever.
Knowing that intellectually is one thing, to really feel it is quite another. We send out dual energies if we're feeling one thing and saying another, it makes the situation complicated. If we really have the feeling of Acceptance within us, then we allow ourselves and each other person to do what we're doing and to develop from that lesson. When we Love Unconditionally, we are One with everything around us, there are no limits, everything is Love.
Well... everything and everything...
Our famous ego would like to say something completely different! For what the ego thinks is love, is what we've thought in our whole life is love. The ego thinks; you have to give me something to make me love you, you have to look a certain way for me to love you, you must be in a special way for me to love you, you have to do just this for me to love you... etc. The ego just can't love everything equally as it is. But the ego is eager to speak when it's not happy with the person or the situation.
The love for another human being is something the ego is an expert on.
When one's ego is focused on another person to fill their needs without getting any response from that person, that's when it starts to hurt. And the ego makes one believe that the other person is absolutely the only one who can fill their needs and make them whole. But as long as you believe in the ego, then every little setback will make it hurt again and more needs have to be filled. The only thing the ego does is lead you on a false path. You do not need another person to make you whole!
In this kind of process my recommendation is that you have help from someone with knowledge in the field who can guide you through all the parts, for it is more than you can read here. I myself started with my processes in January 2010 and I just saw "the Light in the tunnel"!
How in the name of the Lord, can I have anything left, when I 've gone so far up on the spiritual ladder?
For the super simple reason that for every new step upward on the spiritual side, the ego will take an equally big step, if you havn't finished working with your ego in the first place. And the higher up you are, the more resistance you encounter, because strength is matched, too. And that is exactly what can be felt, an Angel encounter a Human Being. The very best thing is, of course, to know your ego's patterns and thus be aware of its next step. Besides this, I was extremely exceptional, ie slow ;)
Good luck!
Here are words that many twelve-step programs use: "God, grant me the serenity to Accept the things I can not change, Courage to change what I can and Wisdom to know the difference." Clear as glass!
